We are once again at the time of year that can often feel difficult for grieving families. The dark and cold can reflect and add to our mood; it can be hard to find any glimmers of light.

When there are additional expectations around holidays and festivals such as Christmas, it can be overwhelming. We may need to distract ourselves or just power through what we need to do. It is also okay to have some enjoyment – this can sometimes leave us feeling guilty, like we forgot our grief for a moment. Think of it as taking a breath.

We may need to be aware when we need space, emotionally and physically, pressing the pause button. If being in a group or social event feels too much, step away for a moment – again, taking a breath. It is okay to say ‘no’ or to attend for a shorter time than expected, if you need to. Give yourself permission to be flexible with plans.

Connection in grief is really important, finding personal ways to maintain connections to the person who has died. It might be helpful to create and begin new traditions to carry their memory into our present without them.

New Year can also be difficult, as it heralds a whole new year ahead without our person and may signal the close of a year of which they were a part. It is a reminder of how the world keeps turning when we feel it should no longer do so.

This may be a helpful link at this time of year: https://whatsyourgrief.com/holiday-dread/

Be gentle with yourself.